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Ava is Four Years Old

For Ava’s birthday Jon gave her a sleeve of crackers to feed the birds

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Independence/Motor Skills

  • Ava told us the other day that she is no longer a cat.  Even though I had worried for awhile that being a cat was going to cause problems with making friends, I’m sad that she’s moved on from that stage.  I think she’d been a cat for about two years.
  • Ava is getting much better at playing on her own.  She acts out complicated scenarios with her toys.  She loves injecting any drama into their interactions.  The other night, I felt like such a great parent because she had a bird that was upset because he wanted to be called a name that was different from his name and she worked through the steps that I implement when she’s having a tantrum.  She acknowledged that the bird was sad, but she wasn’t able to change the bird’s name.  She even used a gentle voice that I think was supposed to be my voice.
  • Ava is getting even better at playing with kids.  She used to do parallel play and not quite know how to interact with other kids, but now she plays dress up and she acts out some scenarios with the kids.
  • Ava is always convinced that I’m about to leave her.  Every time I come out of my office, she says “Where are you going?”  I thought that working from home would make Ava less clingy, but I think it’s had the opposite effect.

It was Ava’s fourth birthday, but she asked for five candles

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Foods and Liquids

  • Ava loves macaroni and cheese, mashed potatoes, carrots, green beans, peas, cabbage stew, scrambled eggs, lentils, french fries, spaghetti, sushi, and bananas.  She likes a lot of other food as long it doesn’t include lettuce, black pepper, or any heat from spice whatsoever.

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Sleep

  • Ava falls asleep pretty quickly as long as she isn’t allowed to talk and you play Ivan Moravec’s Chopin Nocturnes.

horseshoe crabs are very interesting underneath

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Language Skills

  • Where to even start?
  • Ava has an astounding vocabulary and she’s clearly an only child who talks to adults all day long that also treat her like a person and not a child.
  • She’s been very interesting in the meaning of words.  Ava particularly likes to ask about idioms.  She used to laugh and laugh if you said you were losing your marbles or you tossed your cookies.  Now she wants to now about the idioms that aren’t so obvious, like don’t let the cat out of the bag.  Why, mom, why?
  • Ava is such a good person and language matters to her very much.  She doesn’t like it when I malign anyone’s character, alive or inanimate.  I can’t call the bananas old, for example.
  • In Florida the restaurant that we went to had almost all Laughing Gulls surrounding it and one gull with a grey head.  The grey-headed gull was grumpy and he would yell at any Laughing Gull that tried to land near him so I called him Grumpy Seagull.  Ava felt like I was too hard on him so she renamed him Sweet Seagull and said he was no longer grumpy!  She loved him so much, she’s pretended that he flew back with us to Utah.

It’s no wonder Ava wants to move to Florida.  Where else can you find two frogs inside an ashtray?

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We spent the last week in Florida where Ava got to see two grandparents on my side and one grandparent and an aunt on Jon’s side.  When we left, Ava declared that she wanted to live in Florida.  I think it’s because she loved seeing family, but I also suspect it’s because she doesn’t understand that vacations are more fun than real life.  I tried explaining that Jon and I have to work and can’t spend the morning at the beach and the afternoon at the pool when it’s not vacation, but she was not persuaded.

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We stayed on St. George Island, which has a lot of beautiful houses and no good restaurants.  Fortunately Jon found one restaurant where we had the majority of our meals – Lynne’s Quality Oysters.  The restaurant is positioned right next to the water and the entire underside of the restaurant was filled with oyster shells from all the food they serve.

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Jon alone ate 120 oysters during the trip.  I loved everything on their menu, especially the crab, although I only ate it once because the cracking of the crab legs was too physical for Ava.  She’s okay with eating the meat completely disassociated from the shellfish, but when faced with the crab leg she was completely horrified.

This was Ava’s favorite restaurant too because all you had to do was walk to the edge of the water to find a hermit crab.

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I love any restaurant where I can take Ava back and forth to eat and wander.  It’s much easier than making her stay at the table entertained the whole time.

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The house that we rented was the nicest rental I’ve ever stayed in.  It was two floors of living space with its own elevator, heated pool, and golf cart.  The house is up on stilts and our bedroom was on the third floor so I walked up between 20 and 30 flights of stairs a day, which was amazing.  Ava loved the golf cart.

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Ava also loved the pool, especially when someone pretended to be a water monster for her.  She still keeps asking “What’s a cracken?”

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Ava Tidbits

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I’ve been saving up all these Ava tidbits.  This is the funniest one:

We’ve been working on consequences with Ava lately. One night she wasn’t allowed to fall asleep with a toy but Jon promised to put the toy next to her after she feel asleep if she was good so she would wake up with the toy.

Jon: I promise I’ll put the toy next to you and there will be a consequence if I forget. What consequence should I get for forgetting?

Ava: No coffee ever again.

I had expected her to say something that would be important to her, like that Jon couldn’t have cookies for a day.  But she knew exactly what would hurt him.  I think this bodes well for trying to teach her empathy since she’s already capable of understanding what’s important to other people.

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Ava’s been extra concerned about people staying with her and leaving lately.  When I go to the grocery store Ava asks, “Where are you going?  Will you come back?”  It’s especially funny because I work from home and I’m around her always.  I went to a baby shower a few months ago for three hours and she was upset for a week!  It’s only gotten worse since Stonewall died.

But Ava is also very sweet because when I leave she insists on giving me a hug and a kiss.  Sometimes she says, “Keep that kiss.”

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Ava has always loved the signs prohibiting things.  Every time I use the hair dryer she wants an explanation about the icon on it that says you can’t put a plugged-in hair dryer in a bathtub full of water.  But she started getting savy to the fact that we ignore a lot of the rules on things.  Like how shopping carts have signs that say you can’t put the kid in the body of the cart.  Ava loves sitting in the body so much, sometimes she makes the reusable bags into a nest for herself.

Now Ava is learning to use the signs against people.  We got Ava a bounce house for her birthday last year and we bring it out sometimes because it brings out all the neighborhood kids to play.  The nicest girl on the street, Lydia, wanted to wrestle Ava in the bounce house.  Lydia is three years older than Ava so she won.  Ava got out of the bounce house, found the rule on the side that prohibits wrestling in the bounce house, and said she couldn’t wrestle anymore.

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RIP Stonewall

On Sunday Stonewall started having seizures.  We brought him to the vet and got him anti-seizure medication, but it wasn’t enough.  He died during the night.

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My poor buddy.  We will really miss him.  He was such a happy little guy with such a loud voice.  He loved to get into things and during the spring he and Conner would mate almost constantly.  Stonewall hated Trevor and would try to taunt him.  Stonewall’s yell in response was so loud you could hear it from any part of the house.

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Sometimes when I worked Stonewall would sit on my arm or preen my hair.  He was such a nice work companion.

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Conner is taking the loss really well.  When Audrey died he was depressed for months.  I showed Conner Stonewall’s body and I think he understood, but he hasn’t needed much more than some extra scratches.

Rest in peace, Stonewall, we will miss you.

Easter Egg Hunt

Easter was great this year.  Our neighbors hold an Easter egg hunt every year.  Everyone gives them 15 eggs and at 10:30 on Easter we let the kids loose.

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Ava did really well.  I was worried at first because she saw all the ones planted at our house and she was horrified that by the time we got there they were all gone.  There was also a minute where she insisted that we find a golden egg.  But she got over these restrictions and enjoyed the process of finding eggs and especially eating the candy.

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She was even okay with stopping once we got to about 15, especially since it meant she could inspect all the candy.

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After all that candy I was especially happy that Ava’s Easter egg basket was entirely composed of fruits and vegetables.  Ava loves to go crazy in the supermarket and pick out peppers, radishes. bananas, and cucumbers.  So for her basket I picked out a tiny pineapple that Ava loved.  I also picked out English peas because Ava is enamoured with picking peas out of pods.  And I added a kiwi, cucumber, and purple carrots.  Ava thought the kiwi was a potato so we joked about the special green potato.

Ava and Technology

Ava is amazing at technology.  She’s better at using Jon’s phone than I am.

Alexa is on the table behind Ava’s head

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We have an Alexa in the dining area and Ava is always adding things to its shopping list.  For awhile she was adding bird sticks, which is a phrase she loves to say.  It usually means a stick that you can use with a bird.  Like a chopstick that serves as a bird perch.  Then she kept adding milk to the shopping list.  Alexa has a feature where you can listen to the audio used to provide instructions.  I often check the audio when I’m at the grocery store because I can’t remember if I added the item or Ava did.  More recently Ava has been adding carrots to the shopping list.  We now have a lot of carrots in the house.

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In our bedroom we use an Alexa to play music for Ava to fall asleep.  Ava likes to turn on the music.  She only wants music from KUSC, which is a classical music station in California.  When you instruct Alexa, she’ll say “Playing KUSC from Jon’s tunein in bedroom.”  The other night Ava made a joke where she told Jon to sing a song “from Jon’s tunein in bedroom.”

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Ava likes asking Google questions on my phone.  It’s a great way to see what she’s thinking about.  The other day she asked Google how birds eat out of trees and how owls fly.  Ava also loves looking up YouTube videos about things.

Today we watched a video about baby mongooses.  Last week we watched a series of videos on baby snakes.  Before that we watched a video of a doctor removing a sea urchin spike from a woman’s toe.  There was a whole month when we watched videos of Mario beating Bowser in Mario Odyssey.

Bird Update

I work from home in a teeny tiny office off of our television room.  The birds live in there too, which means I spent more time with them now than I ever did before.

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For about half the year they are good companions.  Starting about a week ago, their nestiness set in and it has made them so difficult.  Conner likes to mate on top of Stonewall for at least five times a day.  It makes Trevor upset and he starts yelling.  So Conner and Trevor will go into a nestbox together and Stonewall will start yelling.

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But sometimes in the afternoon Conner wants to sit on my arm while I type.  He preens while Trevor and Stonewall take turns flying around being upset that Conner was not close to them.

 

 

Hawaii: Day 8

For our last day we headed up to Waimea Canyon.  Ava enjoyed chasing the chickens.

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The canyon was beautiful, but also really cold.  I did not appreciate how cold it would be up there because the rest of Hawaii was so warm.  Ava was displeased.

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We did some driving in the canyons and stopped at a little area with some forest.  Ava tried to lure the chickens out of the forest with peanuts and make a nest for them.

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After Waimea Canyons, we drove out to Hanapepe for some more shopping.  On the way, we saw a rainbow that was like Hawaii’s request for us to come back soon.

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I mentioned in Day 7 that we negotiated with Ava to wear a shirt by promising her a basket.  The house had these baskets with a very specific looking weave.  When we were shopping in Hanapepe I noticed that a gallery had purses held in a basket that looked just like the ones in the house!  It turns out that the baskets are made from the bark of the hala tree, which is a Hawaiian tree with a neat looking root structure.  The woman managing the gallery said that the basket was from the Ace Hardware right next to the airport.  We went straight there and I bought six baskets because they’re so particular to Hawaii and I knew Ava would be ecstatic.

Then we went to the airport and flew home.

 

 

Hawaii: Day 7

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We went back to Poipu Beach and ate poke on the beach.  All the chickens swarmed because we brought out food.

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Ava was getting mad at the chickens and she wasn’t really interested in swimming.

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We went back home to get Ava in a better mood.  After a few hours of relaxing, we went on a little adventure and walked to Whaler’s Cove, which has turtles.  They had a few turtles, but they were hard to see in the rocks.  There are three, can you see them?

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We went back to the house and I tried to get Ava to wear the lama t-shirt that she wore the previous two years.  Ava hates short-sleeved t-shirts so she was very unhappy to have to wear it, even though we bargained for everything including the most precious thing we could give her – a basket.  I’ll talk about the basket on day 8.

2017

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2016

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2015

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We spent the evening playing in the yard where Ava gathered many flowers for Bowser and we watched the sunset.

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One of the things we bargained for – Ava got to wear Jon’s owl hat for a little while.

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Hawaii Day 6

In the morning we headed back to Crazy Beach.  The waves were so intense that we only stood in the water up to our ankles and it still knocked us down.

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A lifeguard actually came out and told us not to go in the water.  None of that stopped the surfers, though, who looked like they were having an amazing time.

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We had fun on the beach, though.  Ava made wood structures and Jon helped her create a city of sandcastles.

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We had a lovely lunch at my favorite bakery, Midnight Bear Bakery and visited the Monkeypod Jam store.  They have a fantastic tomato jam that is perfect for grilled cheese sandwiches.  [Sidebar: we are vegetarians and Ava recently learned that other people eat meat.  When I tasted the tomato jam, I remarked that it tasted like barbeque sauce.  Ava asked what barbeque sauce is and I said people usually put it on pig meat.  Ava was horrified to learn that people eat pigs.  I think she might wind up being a militant vegan when she’s older.]

We had poke bowls for dinner from Makai Sushi.  After dinner we watched a gorgeous sunset at Baby Beach.

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Ava loved watching all the birds settle into the trees along the shore.

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I’m so glad I brought my camera that night.

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